Women and Roaches apparently dont mix

[vvx]

Sounds like the standard "compromise" to me.

 

[brothaT]

Misconceptions are incredibly difficult to overcome. When I first got some I told my mom they were dubia bugs and then explained all the benefits of having them over crickets. She seemed fine with it and I even showed them to her and she thought they were kind of cute. As of now I've told her they were roaches but because she had already had them in the house and seen that they were harmless and not a problem she accepted it. I know for a fact that if I had gone up to her one day and said I wanted to get some roaches for my Ts I would have been shut down on the spot.

 

[Newports]

The reason why I might seem ignorant with this topic is because I had to go through a whole process of telling my family what kind of roaches they were and what not. I was scolded and told I was definitely not able to get any. But I consisntently informed them the benefits over crickets and money savings and also told them that if I can take care of life threatening scorpions I think I can handle taking care of tropical roaches that are not the disease carrying dirty roaches that thrive in the US. And I eventually won, sometimes you just have to work a little bit more than you think you should. You never know.

 

[hasani1408]

Some women and roaches do mix. I love my B.dubia my husband just tolerates the bugs. But its a compromise. Maybe she will come around to the idea later just keep at it.

 

[Matt K]

Correction: There is no documentation that any roaches carry disease or have ever made someone ill (not including allergies).

 

[Dillon]

Order the dubias and keep them somewhere concealed and continue on with the crickets.

A month later, pull out the tub from some hidden closet and say, " See, they've been here all along and you didnt even know."

 

[messiah35]

Very funny.

 

[a1_collection]

I have been there time and time again. Reason why i am single.

 

[xhexdx]

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who can get away with it. I have 5 breeding colonies.

If you can point out that dubias can't climb smooth surfaces and let her pick out (or you 'assist' in helping her pick out) the container/tank/bin/tub they will be living in, maybe she will feel a little better about it. You should also point out to her that the roaches aren't like the wild ones and don't carry diseases, aren't dirty, etc. They're probably cleaner than rats and snakes, if you feed them properly.

Hope it works out for you.

--Joe

 

[skippy]

i tried all that... it's still a "roach" and therefore not acceptable

 

[jpet]

My wife is tolerant, she understands why I have them. She actually doesn't like all my Tarantulas, but she knows that is what I like and accepts it.

 

[Uehling]

I am SO lucky my wife loves our roaches! lol

 

[codykrr]

just get them and tell her their " giant rolly polies". my wife hate the roaches i have and make her ant to puke when she hears them scrurring around in the bin to eat. but i look at it this way. ive been married for little over 4 years. now. and if im paying the bills ill have what i want in my house. im not mean by any means i just feel that i shouldnt have to get "permission" to have what i want. nor does she though either.like a 3000 dollar couch:wall: ......so like newport said "man up" get them and and she will come around if love is truely there.

 

[andy375hh]

I know the feeling my wife doesn't mind my T's, Scorps, Centipede's and snakes but she ablsolutely refuses to let me breed Roaches. I am still working on it though hopefully I can get her to come around and let me have some. :wall:

 

[Buspirone]

Two dozen crickets make more noise and stink more than 500 roaches. You just need to educate and point out that insecticide companies have made it their business to give all roaches a bad name and hope you can use reason to overcome all the bad press your significant other has been exposed to for the span of her entire life. Good luck.

 

[LeilaNami]

i tried all that... it's still a "roach" and therefore not acceptable

ok so now order a different species and replace 'roach' with 'beetle'

 

[skippy]

i try not to lie about anything... makes it easier to keep track of what i said

besides, i think she'd figure it out and i don't want to have that conversation with her

 

[wedge07]

Well, skippy I'm in the same boat you are. I think am to the point were I will tell the GF that they are Dubia beetles.

 

[SandyMuffinCakes94]

lol beetles thats sneaky

 

[pouchedrat]

I would only have an issue with it because I kept various species of exotic roaches as pets growing up, and absolutely loved them. My father wouldn't let me keep them in the house so I kept them at my school, but when my parents divorced, my mom was completely fine with them. A madagascar hisser male escaped once and we found him a few days later trying to keep warm next to the dryer in the laundry room!

My fiance wouldn't let me get my T's before. heck, it took a few years to get him to allow me to get a couple millipedes again! Of course now that he allows it, I feel like it's an opportunity to acquire more species.

Still wanting a giant australian burrowing roach, but they're just far too expensive (and he's still iffy about roaches, although he KNOWS it wouldn't be able to get out and breed, and is fairly open minded about new things. It's just the fact that it's a creature with more than 4 legs or less than 2). He didn't like my rats the first time he moved in with me either, but now he's with me and thinks they're the best pet out there and he'll even make a seperate meal for them at dinner time!

They just need to be open minded and willing to learn. Even now, he admits the T slings are cute, they just have too many legs, lol.