I ended up giving up for a little while. A local hobbyist friend of mine came over today so we could straw pack a bunch of slings we were both sending to the same person and he helped me get her out. It took a while and she was still being stubborn, but finally there was success!! He used his chopsticks and some compressed air while I held the deli cup got her to come out the other side.
I'm so relieved.
The guy who put that stupid fish decoration in her enclosure really didn't think that through very well.
Nice specimen, and glad you were finally able to get her out!