your location is southafrica - wow, i think you have pretty interessting animals there
with this pics i can't give you a positive id of your spider, but in my opinion there are 3 families most probably.
ctenidae, sparassidae, lycosidae.
but on the pics it seems to be to much big for a lycosidae and the very long fourth pair of legs makes sparassidae improbable, i think.
so the most similarity in habitus to me is in ctenidae !
in this family there are a few poisonous species - but even so harmless ones.
and many are simply not verified about poisonous.
this guy (yes, it is a male) was in your beed without attack you, so in my opinion there is no reason to be afraid - simply be careful.
other families are possible. a good picture of it's eyeregion (frontal and from above) will help to identify on family level a lot.
thanks a mil for the reply - his legnth was roughly about 7 - 9 cm,
movement was very slow, well he didnt move fast while i captured him...seemed to cling well to the bed side - and important his movemnt was sort of bouncy but only when on the floor.will try to get some better close ups when i get home from work.