- Mar 26, 2013
- The term 'newbie/beginner' is appropriate for people new to this hobby or any other hobby. What's to despise? It's an accurate description, and it impacts our advice to them. Everyone of us were beginners at some point. There's no shame in that. I'd much rather them be honest about that than to try to lead us to believe they know more than they actually do. Don't blow smoke. Honesty is the best policy. Experience/skill level matters in the advice we give, especially when advanced OW species are involved. The 'research' many of them do is online care sheets. It definitely helps if we know where they're coming from.- Every time a question is asked, it is wholly unneeded to start drilling the asker on what species they’ve kept and for how long.
- Just like with all hobbies, there is a certain taboo in being a ‘newbie’ (a term I despise because of the connotations). Because of that taboo, they are immediately put on the defensive and feel as if they need to explain their actions, which is then perceived by this community as arguing
- I've been involved in many animal and plant hobbies over the decades and totally disagree with it being 'taboo' to be a beginner. It's not an insult. I've had many great mentors throughout my life, that 'took me under their wing' and taught me things, gave me great advice, along with free plants and animals. What every experienced person wants to see is enthusiastic beginners, thirsty for knowledge, the ones that will carry the hobby in the future. None of them want to see the hobby die. That's why experienced people have helped me, the newbie, so many times. I wasn't a know-it-all, or came in with a chip on my shoulder. I wasn't sensitive or easily offended. That behavior turns off anyone, including experienced people that would otherwise love to help you. And we've had our share of them here, that started throwing verbal punches right out of the starting gate, insulting us, calling names, then storming out of here and bad-mouthing us. Those people probably have a history of being drama queens. I'm not going to play the game and tip toe around them. Hey, if they want to come here with an open mind and a passion for spiders, absorbing all they can, I'll help them every chance I get. I've praised some of them. I've helped many eager beginners here, and sent a number of them free spiders. How many of you have done that?
- Any beginner that starts off with an advanced species, especially a fast potent one, is going to get questions from us. We would be remiss if we didn't. Some of those people followed our advice and chose other species instead; I have a tremendous amount of respect for that. Some of them argued with us and in several months the spider grew and they were afraid of it, and they ended up selling it.
The point of us asking questions is to determine the best advice to give them. It's nothing to do with ego. All of us want the experience to go well with beginners; a few of them are going to be the ones that eventually replace us.