You are right, they are all different. It's interesting because I have the opposite experience regarding these two species – B. emilia (note spellingBrachypelma emelia (Mexican Red Legs) are a tad on the hair flicking side. But they are all different. ALL but one of mine kick hair if you even walk by the terrarium. I deffinitely would suggest a different species. Perhaps a Brachypelma smithi (Mexican Red Knee). They are quite docile in temperment and I've never had one kick any hairs or throw up a threat display.
But this is all based on my personal experience.