have you ever tried to handle the B.vagans outside of its enclosure? all ofExactly my experience - and in my case, it was with a G. pulchripes, the T that seems to be getting the best press in this thread - with good reason - I too cast my vote for the pulchripes - what a beautiful spider!
Somebody recommended the B vagans, and somebody else expressed a "buyer-beware," and I agree wholeheartedly with both - my vagans is like a loose cannon with a very short fuse! Mean, in-my-face, beautiful, voracious, mean, fun-to-watch, always out in the open, mean, easy maintenance and ... oh yes, did I mention mean? ...
That's why I love him.
In short: GET BOTH! That way, when you're scorned by the vagans, you'll be consoled by the pulchripes!
p.s. What tarantula was it that you held in the pet shop? I'd be willing to bet it was a G rosea.
mine are beasts in their cage, they think everything is food, but if i can persuade them to stroll outside its cage they sweeten up real quick.