Coping with loss

[juniperkisses440]

Time to revive another old thread.
I have this question too and thought some fresh thoughts would be nice.
I am emotional enough as it is, but I’ve gotten attached to my MM thrixopelma and have had my L. klugi sling for only a short time but I was immediately in love and after spending several hours on “surgery” for a bad molt I feel as if my heart is breaking with the realization that it’s probably just too late.
How do you move on from an emotional loss? I feel like I won’t want another of that species because it won’t be the same

 

[Introvertebrate]

Softy.

 

[Ultum4Spiderz]

Time to revive another old thread.
I have this question too and thought some fresh thoughts would be nice.
I am emotional enough as it is, but I’ve gotten attached to my MM thrixopelma and have had my L. klugi sling for only a short time but I was immediately in love and after spending several hours on “surgery” for a bad molt I feel as if my heart is breaking with the realization that it’s probably just too late.
How do you move on from an emotional loss? I feel like I won’t want another of that species because it won’t be the same

I don’t know if it would make me avoid a favorite sub species , might be a few i avoid because the hairs are particularly strong and painful etc fireleg / a few nhandus etc.. or just wear more ppe?
but I really am not sure how to get over a loss besides taking better care of them now or buying new ones. Bad molts being my main cause of losses . Just adds to the confusion which species are fine in bone dry sub and which need wet sub. And why a desert species would have a bad molt when housed as such ?like my a anax and g porteri rip. Sometimes it’s out of our hands if they make it .

 

[IntermittentSygnal]

Time to revive another old thread.
I have this question too and thought some fresh thoughts would be nice.
I am emotional enough as it is, but I’ve gotten attached to my MM thrixopelma and have had my L. klugi sling for only a short time but I was immediately in love and after spending several hours on “surgery” for a bad molt I feel as if my heart is breaking with the realization that it’s probably just too late.
How do you move on from an emotional loss? I feel like I won’t want another of that species because it won’t be the same

I get it. There was a species that had been on my wishlist for awhile and it took time to track down. I was meticulous in preparing everything for the wee ones arrival. All was great until about a week after her first molt with me. I lost her. I was devastated. What did I do wrong? After posting here and getting feedback, it seemed it was a bad molt. I won’t get this species again for awhile. I think this has more to do with my sense that I failed in properly caring for her though.
Aside from that, T’s have individual quirks, habits, whatever you want to call it, that we can ascribe as “personalities”. Once you’ve attached that, you’ve made them special. “There will never be another genic like My genic!” Each of mine is special to me, too.

 

[MasterOogway]

I've cried over a tarantula. It was a little A. versicolor (at the time, not current latin) sling that my wife actually bought me for my birthday. She is *horrified* of spiders, and yet she got me this one because she knew I loved them so much. In a complete accident it got smooshed in a lid as it made a last second dart out of it's cup as I was closing a lid. I chopped it clean in half in the lid I cried that night, but I think more because of the fact that I took this thing that my wife, despite her fears, had given me because she knew it meant so much to me, and ruined it. I work with animals professionally, and am used to loss more so than most folks, but that damn little sling still haunts me to this day.

 

[juniperkisses440]

I've cried over a tarantula. It was a little A. versicolor (at the time, not current latin) sling that my wife actually bought me for my birthday. She is *horrified* of spiders, and yet she got me this one because she knew I loved them so much. In a complete accident it got smooshed in a lid as it made a last second dart out of it's cup as I was closing a lid. I chopped it clean in half in the lid I cried that night, but I think more because of the fact that I took this thing that my wife, despite her fears, had given me because she knew it meant so much to me, and ruined it. I work with animals professionally, and am used to loss more so than most folks, but that damn little sling still haunts me to this day.

That would be very hard. I feel responsible for my L. klugi even though I know it was out of my hands but I feel like I feel like if I was more experienced I could have done something. This was my first T loss (although I also work with creatures and have kept and lost many creatures) it hit hard because I was fond but also because the idea that I would have any invert longer than 3 years was not something I wanted until I got one, and now the idea that I might only have some of these 3 years is so distressing to me.