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This is a really off topic post. Guys I really really truley need your help... When we were cleaning our bunny cages my mom was acting really really weird snapping at anything that got in her way. I asked her whats wrong and she said she had alot of nightmares about her past of kindey problems. I asked if she wants to talk about it she said no then said well son, I have to go for more treatment for the surgery I had on my bladder and that I dont want to get this treatment. I asked her why she said it has the side affects are like bleeding bladder and that she said the cancer she had was a high level one and it may move to my kidneys. I answered her have you talked to dad? then she said he wants to me to get the trement but im refusing due to the unknowns it can give and hes really ticked at me. At that I told I could do anything to help her then she jsut said jsut look at yourself this comming years that theyll be hard for you due to the fact ill be really ill and grumpy, and that jsut do your hw and just look after yourself.

Im on the verge to give up guys I really need to know what I should do im like the most worried 15 year old son right know.

-Exotic,

 

[arachyd]

Reassure her that you're there for her no matter what her decision. If you feel she should get the treatments then tell her how you feel up front but then respect her decision and don't pressure her about it. She's under enough pressure it's giving her nightmares. Hopefully your dad will do the same. Stress can do as much damage as illness and not having to worry about you being upset with her decision will help her avoid some stress.

 

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Ya i was helping her clean the hosue the least I can do for here shes a lil bit better from me helping her

 

[Mina]

Tell her you love her and you are there for her. Tell her that you will support her no matter what her decision is. Then just do it. The most wonderful gift you can give her is yourself. Make sure she knows how much you care.

 

[starmaiden]

As a person who has gone through a slurry of health issues involving a brain tumor, I can understand your mom's reluctance to get more treatment. There comes a point when you say to yourself 'enough' to invasive and painful medical treatments.

I would just say 'be there' for your mom. That's all you can do. ((((hugs))))

 

[Rochelle]

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There just aren't enough words for how much I'd like to hug you right through the monitor...
The other Folks have given the best advice....just be there for her. Knowing you aren't scared is going to help her stress level in more ways than I can ever explain....
Hug her often and keep your Faith, son. He'll hold your hand when you're feeling the most frightened. :worship:

 

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Well I know my mom knows im with her on this and truley love her only God knows whats gonig to happen soon. And guys thanks for alll the help, you guys really helped out my day

 

[crpy]

Be the rock for her man, if you need to talk and a ear to listen PM me anytime.

Fred

 

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Thanks crpy I know I can count on you, rochelle and the rest. But the thing im worried is that on thanksgiving shes gonig to tell everyone about the treatment, I know its proboley going to ruin me and my older brothers thanksgiving. im not sure how there gonig to take it. I was given a phone call a couple of mins before this post that my best friend just past away...

 

[crpy]

Thanks crpy I know I can count on you, rochelle and the rest. But the thing im worried is that on thanksgiving shes gonig to tell everyone about the treatment, I know its proboley going to ruin me and my older brothers thanksgiving. im not sure how there gonig to take it. I was given a phone call a couple of mins before this post that my best friend just past away...

My sister died on the night before Christmas, I would have put Christmas aside to help her if I could, focus on the matter at hand. I know Im not there so I dont know the dynamics exactly, but I know its hard. This is the part of life that believe it or not helps us grow stronger and gain wisdom to deal with similar situations in the future.

 

[Mina]

I'm so sorry!!!! We will be here for support if you need someone to talk to, vent at or anything else. Right guys?
I'm sending you all of the hugs you can handle and I'll keep you and your Mom in my prayers.

 

[crpy]

yep, we are here for you.

 

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Well Im really thankful for you guys right know crpy mina rochelle and the rest thanks again. Today was really hard, tomorrow were having a remeberence day for my best friend his name was Roger Champaige aka the fish guy. he loved fishing he skipt school sometimes when he was really stressed and jsut go on a lake at just fish just the sounds of nature surrounding him. Roger I hope your on your canoe with Jesus in heaven Shelter in gods arms. R.I.P Buddy your true pal Jeremy.

 

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Update.

Well he had our remberence day proboley the most emoctional thing i ever experienced in my life time when we walked into the gym there was this aura of sadness. The scenery was really nice we had a table with a pic of roger the cross and flowers on curtains roses to be specifica aroma of vigorous scents. There was a powerpoint about him playing his childhood up to his age. But the best pic that struck most people was him holding his sisters baby, that made everyone cried, espically me more. For today will never be forgotten for roger...

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[crpy]

Well he had our remberence day proboley the most emoctional thing i ever experienced in my life time when we walked into the gym there was this aura of sadness. The scenery was really nice we had a table with a pic of roger the cross and flowers on curtains roses to be specifica aroma of vigorous scents. There was a powerpoint about him playing his childhood up to his age. But the best pic that struck most people was him holding his sisters baby, that made everyone cried, espically me more. For today will never be forgotten for roger...

-Exotic,

Hey exotic, Im prayin for you buddy, keep the faith. I've lost several friends and getting through those tragedies helped me help others. It may be a calling for you to help others in the future that go through tough times by the experiences you have had.

 

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Thank you crpy.