What do you do when they hate spiders?

[Anoplogaster]

In response to the "significant others" poll

 

[Ungoliant]

A relationship would never last long enough to be serious enough to call "significant other" without already knowing a great deal about each other, including that our interests are compatible.

And I would not choose to have a relationship with someone who did not respect that I have my own hobbies and interests and at least tolerate them.

 

[Anoplogaster]

A relationship would never last long enough to be serious enough to call "significant other" without already knowing a great deal about each other, including that our interests are compatible.

And I would not choose to have a relationship with someone who did not respect that I have my own hobbies and interests and at least tolerate them.

Oh, but relationships are full of nasty surprises

 

[Christian Jocson]

My collection is rather small, so I don't think it would matter to a future significant other. All the girls I bring around are freaked out when I mention I have tarantula, but they eventually find it fascinating. It's important to educate noobs about them. Also, having my T's in cool "display" type enclosures with live plants and stuff is a plus.

 

[Ungoliant]

Oh, but relationships are full of nasty surprises

Basic topics like "what do you like to do" and "what pets do you have" should come up early in the relationship, probably even during the first date. I can't imagine being in a relationship where, months or years in, I would just be learning that my SO hated spiders.

New interests (that begin after the relationship) are another matter. But still, not being able to respect my independent interests would be a deal-breaker for me. If your SO can't make peace with that, better to end the relationship sooner than invest more time and energy into something that is not likely to end well.

 

[KezyGLA]

My lady was terrified at first, but the more you know...

 

[Jerry]

Glad I'm not in a situation when my wife doesn't like spiders she's not going to run around catching them to observe like me but she respects them and there place in the world and thinks there cool almost as much as I do

 

[nicodimus22]

It wouldn't get past the first date if she wasn't an animal person. I have too many pets.

 

[Chris LXXIX]

You can do just like old good Barbablù (Bluebeard) of Perrault. Tell to your wife/fiance/whatever that that particular room is "off limits", and if one day she's in full "curiosity killed the cat", well...

Another option is to convert to Islam: I still remember what I saw when I've traveled the whole North Africa (Gaddafi Socialist Libya as well) and there's a few tricks that someone can learn, like that day where the antique 'boss', while doing business (Import/Export, not buying tourists trap items) all of a sudden "Clap Clap" his hands and wife arrived silent, like a ninja, with her mouth shut, with that adorable tea for everyone (I was one of the guests). Now it's easy to understand that someone in such a position wouldn't complain about her husband spiders.

This if you are a Man ^

For that if you are a Woman there's not even the need to explain something to someone: just tell your Man that vagina decided for a strike that not even during revolutions, and you will see your so rehousing OBT's that not even Batman.

 

[Vanessa]

They don't have to love them, I respect that, but they have to be okay with them because they aren't going anywhere.

 

[Jerry]

@Chris LXXIX I believe your the most interesting and confusing person I have ever had the pleasure to listen to

 

[Chris LXXIX]

@Chris LXXIX I believe your the most interesting and confusing person I have ever had the pleasure to listen to

Thanks man. Your kind words lights my heart in those harsh unfinished Winter, just like a Pound throwed in the hands of a little orphan during the Brit Victorian era

 

[KezyGLA]

I think that you have broken his heart @Jerry

 

[Chris LXXIX]

I think that you have broken his heart @Jerry

Well, even brute monsters actually have feelings the very moment that the villagers in full rapture reach the castle with torches for banish the evil, you can't feel sad a bit

 

[KezyGLA]

@Chris LXXIX You are very poetic, a true wordsmith

 

[Walker253]

My SO hated snakes and I started breeding boas. She saw the skill I had in raising, breeding, and selling them. I had a lone rose hair (G porteri) back then. She hated it too. It sat on a shelf in the dining room. The herps had their own room. She saw that they all had no real effect on her life and accepted them. It was my thing. I eventually sold everything off.
Fast forward, I bought an LP and an A gentic while on a day trip to the beach. I could see the "Well, here he goes again". I never got any flack even up until #71 came into the house. I showed through my actions that they aren't a bunch of little hazards that are worth worrying about. I've never tried to force "my hobby" on her. She see that I'm happy and she's happy for me. I'm sure she bites her tongue at times, but really, they have no real effect on her other that taking up space in an unused part of the basement.
Another thing, if your SO tolerates your hobby, you better fully support their hobby.

 

[Chris LXXIX]

@Chris LXXIX You are very poetic, a true wordsmith

What you were drinking in that pic btw my man? Negroni? Americano? :-s

 

[Chris LXXIX]

@Chris LXXIX You are very poetic, a true wordsmith

Oh, btw, about words... you have to see me IRL. I'm single (and pretty happy) at the moment, but one thing I loved to do, with my ex, was to humiliate them while accompany them on their dress shopping adventures.

This one was memorable: shop full of customers (99% 0.1, including workers) she tryed the dress, jumped out and asked to me:

"Come mi sta? Cosa dici, mi sta bene addosso... & gnè gnè gnè blah blah blah?" (How the dress looks on me, basically)

and me: "Ma non vedi che sembri un Kinder Bueno! Dai, per favore, ma guarda che colori..." (Don't you see that you looks like a sort of Kinder Bueno with such colors? C'mon, now...)

The very moment that perfect strangers womens explode (with me of course) and start to laugh in the face of another woman is impareggiabile.

 

[Jerry]

@Chris LXXIX
My apologies if I have offended you I any way you are far wiser than I

 

[Chris LXXIX]

@Chris LXXIX
My apologies if I have offended you I any way you are far wiser than I

Uh? I'm not sure about the last part but apologies? For what, man?

Wise are Chinese, my man. Chinese u_u