Scoly
Arachnobaron
- Joined
- Dec 4, 2013
- Messages
- 488
Now now... I have not insulted you, or attacked you in any way. I corrected your incorrect facts (and did so politely, even apologising for doing it before I did) And yes, I did put you in your place a little when you attempted to ridicule me, but I'm not quite sure what else you expected.Please don't reply to this as thanks to people like yourself I am closing my account.
I hope you don't close your account and decide to stick around. You need to understand that it's not because someone corrects you that they are attacking you as a person. It's also not because you posted something totally wrong, once, that everyone else will think you're stupid. Everyone is wrong at times. However, if you refuse to be corrected, initiate an attack on the person correcting, or use other low debating tactics like exaggerating what they have said, then yes, people will start to think a lot less of you. In fact you will gain a lot more respect from people by having a constructive attitude towards being wrong and corrected, than you ever will by being right.
Some other things I feel you could really do with being told:
- If your response to being corrected is to attack the other person instead of admitting you got your facts wrong and learning from it, then you will never really learn, grow, progress or be respected by intelligent people.
- If your response to being put in your place for such a response is to blame it all on the other person for being nasty and then run away, you will have serious trouble facing the real adversity in life.
Given where you're at, I'd say what you really need is a nice safe place where you can teach yourself to respond better, like an online gym. Perhaps some forum which is more fact-oriented rather than opinion-based (but not pedantically so), in a field which you already possess some knowledge of, where your name will be recognised but you are still kind of anonymous, where most people are nice and interested in the pursuit of knowledge rather than just bashing each other, and the people and share an interest with you, even if some are a bit sarcastic. That kind of place would be a golden opportunity not to be missed, and certainly not one to throw out on a whim
Anyway, hate me all you like, that was me reaching out to you.