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A very strange post title but let me explain. I had a grandmother who was a very intelligent woman and we enjoyed many great conversations together. She knew that I had an interest in wildlife and photography. On one occasion, she heard that I had bought a large book on spiders. She asked me that surely, I had bought the book for the photography appreciation and not because of the subject matter (spiders.) I replied that I bought the book for both of those reasons - the photography and the spiders. Then she asked that surely, I'm not interested in spiders? I replied that I was. She kept pushing this question to me repeatedly and said something about such subject matter is really only suitable for children. In other words, in her mind, it wasn't really appropriate for an older person like myself to buy a book on spiders.
I admit I was really puzzled and confused. So I asked her why she thinks that spiders can only be appreciated by kids. She didn't give an answer.
Actually, a similar kind of thing occurred at a previous time on Christmas day. My family were in the main living room in the morning and a spider happened to be there. So I got out my spider identification pocket book to try and ID it. And then the book was left there on the table. A little later, my grandmother arrived and as soon as she saw the spider identification guide, she assumed straight away that it was a Christmas present to my much younger brother. I then said it was mine. Upon hearing that, she went very silent.
So yes, I'm still confused by this. After all, spiders are not toys that are produced to be marketed towards children. They're living creatures. And I think that all living creatures can be appreciated by anyone, regardless of age. And what about arachnologists? I hope she doesn't think that what they're studying is childish. And by the way, my father (her son) was an entomologist.
I actually do recall that at times, my grandmother was referring to a bird field guide book to ID birds she had seen. And really, this is not too different to the spider ID book that I had.
So can anyone understand this alternate point of view because I can't.
I admit I was really puzzled and confused. So I asked her why she thinks that spiders can only be appreciated by kids. She didn't give an answer.
Actually, a similar kind of thing occurred at a previous time on Christmas day. My family were in the main living room in the morning and a spider happened to be there. So I got out my spider identification pocket book to try and ID it. And then the book was left there on the table. A little later, my grandmother arrived and as soon as she saw the spider identification guide, she assumed straight away that it was a Christmas present to my much younger brother. I then said it was mine. Upon hearing that, she went very silent.
So yes, I'm still confused by this. After all, spiders are not toys that are produced to be marketed towards children. They're living creatures. And I think that all living creatures can be appreciated by anyone, regardless of age. And what about arachnologists? I hope she doesn't think that what they're studying is childish. And by the way, my father (her son) was an entomologist.
I actually do recall that at times, my grandmother was referring to a bird field guide book to ID birds she had seen. And really, this is not too different to the spider ID book that I had.
So can anyone understand this alternate point of view because I can't.