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Arachnoking
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Recently, this subforum in particular has had the above kind of personal attack against people relatively frequently. They have also gone the reverse direction. I don't think I'm entirely innocent from this sort of thing, either.
In the past, this was what I thought differentiated arachnobaords from other forums: everyone was nice to everyone else. And I think it has been in my experience, and it can continue to be. But these sorts of things have to stop. It makes the whole forum less positive for everyone, and more importantly, telling a person that they're horrendous and an idiot is not a good way to change minds.
Very few people come to arachnoboards because they don't care; if they didn't care, they wouldn't bother spending the extra time to ask about how to take care of their pets, or to show pictures of pets they love. Everyone here cares a huge amount. So it's natural to feel offended when somebody says you don't, and everyone would be happier if no one said that. From the other side, if someone disagrees with someone's correction (I say one needs 20 gallons, you say one needs at least 30, I think you're wrong), don't go insulting the person who corrected you, whether they're right or not. Be nice there as well.
Don't be mean. Be nice. It's that simple.
In the past, this was what I thought differentiated arachnobaords from other forums: everyone was nice to everyone else. And I think it has been in my experience, and it can continue to be. But these sorts of things have to stop. It makes the whole forum less positive for everyone, and more importantly, telling a person that they're horrendous and an idiot is not a good way to change minds.
Very few people come to arachnoboards because they don't care; if they didn't care, they wouldn't bother spending the extra time to ask about how to take care of their pets, or to show pictures of pets they love. Everyone here cares a huge amount. So it's natural to feel offended when somebody says you don't, and everyone would be happier if no one said that. From the other side, if someone disagrees with someone's correction (I say one needs 20 gallons, you say one needs at least 30, I think you're wrong), don't go insulting the person who corrected you, whether they're right or not. Be nice there as well.
Don't be mean. Be nice. It's that simple.