Use the search function for this one. It takes too long to explain and needs too many photos (which have been posted ad nauseam). Just search for 'sex' or 'sexing' in the tarantula forum and you'll soon know everything we do.
questions! oh! The questions and your 11? And your sure your parents are ok with this? Most arent, so you haft to explain to you parents how they arent deadly(Well most arent). And do you have the right humidity? Temp? And you haft to feed it often. And if it doesnt take the cricket/mealworm etc... you haft to remove it.... Im sure James will hook you up..