Difficulty mating Lasiodora Parahybanas

[Brentarantula]

So this is the situation. I've been trying to mate my male and female for almost 2months now. The problem is the male is a scaredy cat, and the female is an aggressive girl. The male is so scared that if I try to prod him on the abdomen with a paintbrush, he freaks out and runs away. The female on the other hand is alwaaaays aggressive. Every time I prod her she goes into threat posture. I don't know what to do. I think its hopeless to mate these two. But disclaimer, its been more than half a year since their last moult, they're both sexually mature, the male has made sperm webs before I try to mate him with the female, the female is also fed before mating, so I guess i'm following every procedure to mating but I don't know what's wrong. Maybe I missed something important? What should I do? Should I give up to mate these two?