Darn. I am no expert, but from what I know i had guessed it was a male also when i looked at this. Thanks for the info @Liquifin . I have the guys card at home. Should i ask for a flat out refund since it was sold as a female or should i just see what they are willing to do? Never delt with this before.
IMO, you were not given what you purchased and are entitled to a full refund if you desire, but if you are open to getting something else or if you wanted to negotiate keeping the male at a mutually agreeable lower price, or getting something else as a replacement, i don’t see any issue with it. (a trade or reduced price does need to be mutual, refund not so much)