MintyWood826
Arachnobaron
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People who consider their tarantulas and other inverts objects, even though they are living animals, just because they can't feel anything for you.
A woman in a pet store where I was buying crickets asked me what I buying them for. The look of horror on her face when I told her would only have been appropriate if I mentioned I collected head and crab lice on my body (not that I do - gotta draw the line somewhere, right?).Got another one about non-keepers. Again, I know I shouldn't be angry because they really have no idea and they're just asking a question but I've gotten so tired of answering to, "So, do you like, let them crawl all over our hands and stuff?" Like yeah I just let my spiders rave up and down my arms, it's pretty chill.
And I've also gotten to the stage where I'm immediately annoyed at people's shock and horror when I say I own tarantulas. Get over it you giant baby they're my animals, not yours. I never said you had to come to my house and look at them.
May I just add that it's worse when it's an AB member and not just a random person doing that.People who consider their tarantulas and other inverts objects, even though they are living animals, just because they can't feel anything for you.
Had a very similar experience a few days ago, lady in line behind me was buying aquarium decorations and I said that's a hobby I could never get into cos I'd go broke buying decorations, but for my Ts I never have to worry. She looked aghast when I said I had not only one spider, but two spiders.A woman in a pet store where I was buying crickets asked me what I buying them for. The look of horror on her face when I told her would only have been appropriate if I mentioned I collected head and crab lice on my body (not that I do - gotta draw the line somewhere, right?).
The "Kill it with fire" is definitely annoying.People who insist on taking photos of themselves with a tarantula on their face/cleavage/arms where said body part is nowhere near the ground.
People who have a problem with people using the terms "spood", "spooder", or "spoder". Really? There's plenty of stuff that people come out with that is far more deserving of your scorn, lighten up.
People who have a problem with people naming their tarantulas.
People who ask for advice and then throw a tantrum when the answer isn't what they wanted.
The "kill it with fire" brigade.
(Not that I can blame them because it's usually non-T peeps) Random questions referring to a T by a random-as-heck common name I've never heard before like "Are Asian Szechuan Sauce tarantulas aggressive?"
Nah, by the time the cleavage is close to the ground you can swing-em over your shoulders, no need to photograph them from down underPeople who require cleavage photos be shot close to the ground.
The "Kill it with fire" is definitely annoying.
No!The "kill it with fire" brigade.
You can share your experience without being smug about it.The thing that bugs me most in the hobby is the huge amount of gatekeeping. Someone always knows better than you, someone always has more experience than you, their way is the right way, and boy howdy are they doing to be a smug douche-canoe about it.
We're all learning as we go, there's no reason to be like that.
I'm not sure I follow what you're trying to say.You can share your experience without being smug about it.
You can also respond to someone's experience without being offended.
Two sides of the same coin really
That's indeed what I meant by saying it's possible to share your experience without being smug, yes.I'm not sure I follow what you're trying to say.
A person who replies to an earnest question by a new keeper with a sarcastic non-answer or condescension is gatekeeping. That is an attempt to silence someone who asks a question in good faith by insinuating that they are stupid and their question is foolish, and it is why so many new keepers make their first posts on these boards expecting to be torn apart.
I personally tend to respond to these types of responses with humor, but that's because I've worked in tech for years. I'm used to people doing this and don't take it personally. I doesn't mean it's right, and it's unfair to expect new keepers to just roll with the punches just because so many people in the hobby can't respond to new people asking reasonable questions in a respectful and civil manner.
Is this a thing people don't like? I thought everyone said spood/spooderPeople who use the term "spood" .
I'm talking specifically about gatekeeping. I haven't actually seen any unwarranted instances of newbs being rude and dismissive toward veteran keepers who weren't gatekeeping from the beginning of their interaction with them. I'm sure there are some, but I haven't seen them.The other side to this however, is that there are a lot of new keepers who are disrespectful to the experienced keepers from the moment they arrive. Which in turn makes the experienced people less willing to kindly answer questions.
Imo, both 'sides' have a responsibility when it comes to learning and sharing, not just the keepers.
I'll add to this, it seems that there are quite a few that are very inexperienced with T's who rush to be the first to answer questions and nitpick every enclosure and care detail. If you've only been in the hobby for a year or two, no amount of reading or viewing video's can substitute for actual experience.That's indeed what I meant by saying it's possible to share your experience without being smug, yes.
The other side to this however, is that there are a lot of new keepers who are disrespectful to the experienced keepers from the moment they arrive. Which in turn makes the experienced people less willing to kindly answer questions.
Imo, both 'sides' have a responsibility when it comes to learning and sharing, not just the keepers.